Hugs are defined as [an indication of support, comfort, and consolation, particularly where words are insufficient]. Sometimes words aren’t enough and a hug is everything. They are free to give and priceless to receive.
Our soul’s energy is what makes up our personal space. When you hug someone, you are welcoming them into your energy. This is an act of spiritual intimacy, vulnerability and kindness. You’re not only sharing your energy but expanding it through theirs. Hugs come in as many flavors as there are emotions: friendship, family, romantic, sexual, brotherly, sisterly, etc. A hug can transcend someone from a stranger to a friend.
When I crossed the burning sands of *Phi Beta Sigma*, my dean of pledges was also a childhood friend. At the moment I became a Sigma, he hugged me and I felt not only the brotherhood of my BGLO — but 20+ years of friendship, memories and congratulations surged through my spirit.
Memories of hugging a significant other – particularly during the transition from friends to more-than-friends – the hug created a sense of comfort in both of us; a reassurance that we could be ourselves. That’s what friends (should) do for each other…long before it goes to the next level.
Recently, I met Omari Hardwick – an actor/poet whom I’ve admired for years. He’s also a dear friend of one of my music heroes, Eric Roberson. I introduced myself and we shook hands as brothers tend to do. But when I identified myself as a friend of Eric’s, he immediately pulled me into a brotherly hug. Two strangers connected by the positive energy of a mutual friend. We shared the joint respect for a fellow artist and it was a reminder of how powerful our character can be towards one another. It reaffirmed that having a good name brings about great associations.
When I hug my children, from the teenager to the toddler, I hold them close as a sign of protection, acceptance and love. Their energy began with me as they are a product of me. My love for them is beyond words and a hug takes that expression of love to places rhetoric can never go.
Hugs are powerful. They are not meant to be light-hearted or one-sided. They are an invitation to the energy within you and an open door to the energy of those you recieve. We all need hugs from time to time. It strengthens our spirit and comforts our lives – even when we don’t know it.
I need a hug…and so do you.