Why Do Men (Part 3 of 3)
The last installment. Happy Monday...
Why do men lie so much?
There’s a theory that, if we practice (the art of lying) long enough, we’ll be just as good as women *lol* Just kidding…(hint hint).
Seriously, I do not feel lying is gender-specific. I do believe that – when you think of lying – the male species is more associated with the act. This is not because we’re good at it, but the exact opposite. We suck at lying; therefore, we’re always getting caught and making life much worse than it has to be.
There are many reasons men lie. Do you really want to hear that those jeans are too small- making your side meat look like a cupcake crown? We don’t want to hurt your feelings; but we don’t always want to do what it takes for the truth NOT to hurt. Our devious nature (as humans) to get away with things – big or small – is often a catalyst for lying. Sometimes a lie is thrown out there to buy time while we come up with a better solution to our problem.
Sadly, this rarely works and when it does…it doesn’t work for long. My experiences are that lying typically leads to destruction and amplifies any existing bad situation. We do it for the off chance that it might work…this one time.
Why do men cheat on wives, girlfriends and significant others?
This question correlates with the previous issue of lying. You must lie to cheat – unless you’re a straight up G and got it like that. Most people don’t so – for the sake of this question – we’re going to assume that you must lie in order to cheat successfully.
Again, THIS IS NOT A MAN THING. In fact (and I know I’m about to piss off some women), it is my belief that women cheat much more than men do. The difference (AGAIN) is that men are not smarter, more cunning nor organized enough to cheat and NOT GET CAUGHT. This is why society associates cheating with men – because we get caught on a regular, thereby providing a plentiful sample for a flawed statistic.
The reasons we cheat range from emotional starvation to basic carnal desire. It depends on the maturity level of the man. Most cheat because they’re not getting what they think they should be getting from home. I have an amazing clip from the movie “30 Years to Life” that I will post one day to illustrate this fact. No reason can justify cheating – especially in marriage – but it happens…often. I’ve done it and I lamented over how it hurt the person. I’ve had it done to me and it did irreparable damage to my heart as well. It’s just not a good look and you jeopardize years and moments you cannot get back.
We cheat because we’re stupid.
Why do men treat women like they are stupid?
Please refer to the last sentence of the previous answer.
Why do men pimp when they walk?
There are many theories dating back to Africa. Here are a few of my faves:
Perhaps the disproportionate penis + gravity combo results in a shift in walk to maintain balance.
If you grew up in or near the 70s, the blaxploitation films perpetuated the ‘pimp walk’ as a status of cool.
We walk with music in our heads, sometimes you have to stay on beat 
Allow me to wrap this question up by asking another, have you actually seen a pimp…walk?
Why do men want to have threesomes?
Young, virile men want threesomes…and can probably handle them. Older men dream of threesomes…and would probably die from them.
It’s the ultimate ego stroke – the ability to please two women simultaneously while indulging in the coup de gras of overstimulation. The concept of a ménage a trios feeds the hedonist id that dwells inside of every man…waiting for an opportunity to get into a “phone-less” 3-way.
My opinion is that it plays out better in the mind than in real life. The concept of 2 girls, 1 guy is a gateway to erratic feelings that disrupt the ordinary. While it strokes the male ego, it has the potential to destroy the female psyche (e.g., “Am I not enough for my man that he wants another woman?”).
In the immediate long run, it’s just not a good look. What can I say? We get the idea from all those pornos we watch(ed).
Until next time…
Shannon Renee says:
THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!
Fave, I so appreciate your taking the time to address my questions. You answers are honest, straightforward and with a bit of humor; however, I believe the truth lies in the in the simple fact that a lot of men present anti-social behavior (lying, cheating, touching/scratching, obsessions, etc.) to cover for their little pee-pees. LOL!
Seriously, there were many questions that could be asked of women, with the answers being similar to what you wrote. I strongly agree women lie and cheat as much (possibly more) than men and we're better at it, thus avoid getting caught. Where does that ability/gift/talent come from? Does our society does this to us? Are we training our daughters to behave in the same manner? Something for us to consider.
Thanks.